You tell yourself it’s done.
You even say the words:

“I’m over it.”

"I'm moving on."

"I don't need her."

"I'm better off without that woman." 

But your body disagrees. Your mind doesn’t cooperate.

The truth is: she's not "that woman." She's a woman you loved deeply and sincerely for years. And may still love deeply, in one way or another. 

• You still think about her in the shower.
• You still hear her breath when you’re trying to sleep.
• You see a food she liked in the grocery store — and suddenly your grief rises, submerges you again.

It’s not weakness.
It’s grief. And it's natural. 
It’s not your fault no one taught you how to handle it.

A Simple Truth ...

When a man goes through a breakup — especially after years of investment — he doesn’t just lose the relationship.

He loses direction.

He loses his sense of self.
He loses focus.
He loses his footing.

He loses a focus for his love.

What happens next?
The noise. The looping. The pit in the chest.
The isolation.
The sense that this shouldn’t be hitting so hard…

But it is hitting hard. So hard you feel you're being broken.

You're not being broken (unless you let it continue).

You're just caught in an emotional bear trap no one trained you to escape.

• Not your friends.
• Not your dad.
• Not the shallow, men-blaming culture that surrounds men's emotional pain from breakups and divorces. 

From Someone Who’s Been There

I’ve been through two devastating breakups — one after a 20-year marriage, and another after a 10-year relationship that ended in a brutal betrayal.

The first time, it took me five years to climb out.

I had to piece together everything on my own — Stoicism, eastern-flavored detachment, and step-by-step emotional repair jobs.

The second time? Only five months, because I went back to what I’d learned the first time... 

• Reality-based methods.
• Male-centered, not female-led (What works for them vs us can differ. A lot.)
• Stoic methods boiled down to stoicism's most easily-understood, most highly-effective practices.
• Eastern detachment methods, without the vague mumbo jumbo. Direct, effective, friendly to western minds.

And I was back on solid ground in five months.

Not 100% "cured."

Not 100% "over it."

But on solid ground. Moving forward. Making a new life. Feeling good more days than not. Free of the most debilitating bouts of grief. 

This guide shares 5 exact mental shifts that helped me stop spiraling, clear my head, and move forward.

If you’re stuck in the noise, these tools will help.

There’s a Way Through.
And It Starts With 5 Mental Shifts.

I wrote this guide for men like us — men who’ve loved for years, even decades, and lost. And are in a whirlpool of pain we never imagined possible. 

It’s called: Getting Your Head Back: 5 Wimberleyan Mind Shifts for Men After a Breakup

This isn’t fluff.
It’s not about pretending.
It’s five practical, grounded, reality-based mindset changes drawn from:

• Stoic philosophy (no jargon)

• A touch of eastern non-attachment (made usable for Western minds)

• And authentic, deliberate pain recovery "maintenance and repair jobs" — from my own 20-year marriage ending… and a second brutal breakup after 10 years.

If your thoughts are on a loop…
If your chest is tight…
If you're sick of waking up to the noise — this guide will help you breathe again.

Begin Your Pain Relief Now

1. Download the PDF workbook using the form below. 

2. Step through the 5 short, easy exercises. 

3. Feel your pain become bearable, and begin to fade daily.